This is a great question. I spent a lot of time looking for the right bench and weights only to give up and buy some Chinese-made semi-generic stuff at a local sporting goods store. Cheap and the stuff works. I had wanted American made stuff that all looked a certain way but in the end it was too expensive and the Convenience of buying at a local store was just too great.
But you might check out these:
http://www.newyorkbarbells.tv/ http://www.fitnessfactory.com/