Fork in the path of my life

[Ronin_]

A little background about me - Im 28, and have a poor, very minimal work history and am currently on very little money, about a full time bar man's yearly wage and just started my first EVER permament job

OPTION1Prospects well in 6 months, i could move to another job and get an extra 5-6000 a year, from there I dont know where Im going as sales is definitely not my field, nor is managing people, as my people skills arent so hot mainly as I dont like people that much!

OPTION2Now I could go to university to do a very vocational degree, and try to work full time. Come out aged 31 and hopefully be able to fast track to reasonable money - although only the same as I should have been earning at 22. If I do a full time job I wont miss out on independance and be totally broke. I will have NO life for 3 years though.

On a timeline scale by 40 I need to be married and settled down, so 31 and just starting out is very scary.

I also have a very broken body from weight lifting so that by age 40 I will be a good 40lbs overweight and over the hill. Given my current health and ability to do cardio I also estimate I'll die around age 55.

So Im feeling very rushed in experiencing life as to be honest since about age 20 my life has been very shit and is just starting to get ok'ish.

I also want to sleep around, go to bars, womanise a great deal until im over the hill and too out of shape to do so - about age 35 i think

OPTION3: Think I best catch up on the things I wish I had done when I was early 20s - travel and see the world. Id like to travel around New zealand and Australia over a year, working while i was there, and with my current GF.

I never travelled in the past as I have never met anyone I got on well enough to spend a year with in their company, plus (very sadly) I didnt want to go without the gym.

So I could save up in this job until Im 29 and say fuck it and go off for a year and come back at 30, starting again on a barmans wage, with little goods to my name, barely able to get my own place etc.

But i will have lived.....

.... what do i want to do? Well be 20 again and have all i know now and my 20s ahead of me.

As there arent time machines, most of all id like money and a position of some kudos relatively quickly eg in the next 3 years. As a failing physique and hair line dont matter so much if youre successful, and being overweight and attempting to womanise at 35 on way below average wage is quite pathetic.

Id really, really REALLY like some life advice as I simply dont know where im going, and sometimes the future seems so bleak I cant stand it.

Thanks guys

[aragorn1500]

There's always the Special Olympics!

[Ronin_]

Originally Posted by aragorn1500

There's always the Special Olympics!

How about the 200m kicking fuck into Aragorn event

[THL]

Originally Posted by Ronin_

How about the 200m kicking fuck into Aragorn event

Good one!

Life is only what you make of it Ronin, and by the sounds of things, you wouldn't be any happier if you were loaded. Maybe at 1st, but eventually that would go away. You need to make the best of your situation NOW and stop thinking about the past. It's over and you need to get on with your life. Set some attainable goals for yourself and write them down. When you achieve them cross them off and move on to the next one. You're not going to make it over night,,,,it takes hard work and dedication. Now stop feeling sorry for yourself and go get a job, or go to school, or something! You're far from being to old to start over bro. Hell, you still have 37 more years to work before you can retire. I'm pretty sure if you set your mind to it, you can make something of yourself and do some of the things you've always wanted to.

[Ronin_]

Id thought about the armed forces, but my various injuries would make basic training out of the question

[THL]

Originally Posted by Ronin_

Id thought about the armed forces, but my various injuries would make basic training out of the question

Most of the trades schools in my area allow you to work full time in your chosen trade while only going to school a couple nights a week. That might be a good option for you as you will be able to make decent money while your learning the trade and pretty good money once you are through with school.

And don't be so damn negative all the time Ronin,,,,you will never be happy no matter what you do if you don't have at least a semi-positive outlook. I know sometimes it's hard, but if you stand back and look at the millions of other people in this world whos misfortunes would make your worst day seem like a stroll through the park, it will make you appreciate what you have, no matter how crappy it may seem at times.

Good luck, Gentlestrength, with whatever you decide to do.

[thick]

I suggest working for the year and take as many online classes as possible. Think about trying to get a job for a co. that you would like to work for. Maybe even find a co. that will pay to train you and send you to school. Hope u get your head clear

[smoker]

Dude,
Go to School. I graduated from College when I was 38. I did it in the evenings. I already had what I thought was a good decent paying job before that. When I got the paper, doors started opening that I didnt know existed. Also, I know you said your body is a mess but joining the military will help you pay for a good education. Let Uncle Sam foot the bill and let you see the world. Your young and I promise you, you are going to live longer than you think you will.

THL, Thick everyone has given you great advice, and as Bigkarch said it doesnt have to be a degree.

Hope this helps.

[cinnabar8521]

I'd say education is the way to go, get into the building trades, you can make pretty good money, last year I made $65k without breaking a sweat, thats with benifits, and over 10 weeks off paid with sick, holidays, and vacation time. But I am very good at what I do tho

[fidobuster]

tag as much ass as you can. Nothing makes you feel like more of a man than conquering a woman. Now, given that the feeling wears off after about 2 nights , you'll need to find a new conquest every other day or so. do this now before your body and looks decay; because let's face it, this is a material world we live in and 23 year old chicks think 40 year old guys are creepy. you don't want to be THAT guy.
good luck

fidobuster.

[treeistheman2]

go to school man. dont wait till your 35 or 40 and say i wished i done things diffrent. life just starts at 35 bro, and you will be glad you got your life straight. and dont worry about chicks they will always be there. hell i am 35 and i am tagging more sluts than i was 21. so put a little work into a field that you would enjoy. bro you might look into the medical field. i am a R.N . the other female nurses love male nurses that dont act like a queer. they just love the fact that i am a bodybuilder. al i do is put iv,s in and give out meds all day.

[distributor]

Do you have any experience in a traditional field? A lot of colleges will offer "portfolio" programs where you demonstrate that your experience covers the curriculum (loosely) of required college courses. This way, you skip the stuff you know. My dad used that program and graduated in two semesters with only thirty hours transfering in. Give it a shot... also, I know it sounds gay and corny, but I really like Tony Robbins tapes. And if worst comes to worst, go to the county fair... always picks me up when I'm having a bad day - you see some really sad people there... makes you realize that things could be worse. Stick with the first two pieces of advice though

[Joe West]

im 22 and in a bad area as far as jobs. the jobs that are here are dog assed and thankless that dont pay well on top of it all.

i, like you, spent a good part opf the last couple years just kinda getting by and waiting for something to touch me. like one day ill wake up and have a point to my life. it didnt happen. the truth is, there is no point to life, but what you make.

i have a feeling thats why so many ppl get married and have kids so young. not only are they aimless, they are alone. i managed to bypass that, and im free to do what i like now.

my sole reslution this year was to be more positive. and ive tried, and things have been loking up. i got a job finally. i hate my managers, its a bit repetitive, but im going to keep it because its a struggle. i need a challenge.

bottom line, you are looking for an external answer to an internal problem. schooling, making money etc are the answers of a consumer culture. and how many truly happy ppl do you know? you are gonna have regrets either way, and just like the guy above who graduated at 38, you can goto school at anytime. but you can only be young and dumb once. id much rather be looking for a way to get into school at 35 than being 35 and looking to live a life that i worked through. you do not get a second chance.

so, do what you REALLY want to bro. whatever that may be.

[RobbieH02879]

Ronin, you are a smart guy. You are also very likeable, you can excel in anything you do, bro. I just started back in College after being out for a while. It's never to late to go back; I decided why not go ahead and do it NOW? I have all ready excelled in sales and sales management, so me going back to college is more of a personal goal rather than a career goal...but lets face it; having a degree can do no harm when it comes to my career; in fact it will help me out if I decide to change careers.

I understand you don't like people, but have you ever tried sales? It is an intense business, but the money is great once you get better. I think of myself as a "Professional Whore". I go and do my job, which is to extract the most amount of money as I can from my customer while keeping him/her happy. You are a likeable guy, Ronin. From your posts, you seem to be an intelligent guy as well, who understands what it takes to get what you want from another person (Re: your women )

If you need any advice, email me anytime @ RobbieH02879@safe-mail.net

Later, bro! And keep your head up, I am rooting for ya, man!

Robbie

[Ronin_]

I've weighed the pro's and cons and Im not sure if my consciousness is something i want. I dont know yet, maybe I will use the gun I bought, if so I will leave a message fro all you bros I called friends. I am lost, please someone find me.