Hey bros Need Some help/advice.....

[BigRanger]

First off i just want to say im fairly young (23) so i was hopin that some of you more experienced men help me out.....First im a good lookin guy who usually doesn't have problems getting girls....Now i used to just date alot of em at once ya know? But about 2 years ago i fell in love with a girl that is just down right uncompatible with me and we have decided to call it off (after multiple arguments and screaming and yelling and calling names)..So im goin through the roughest part of my life and im having a hard time coping with all of this shit....Any suggestions that will help the healing....Cmon bros please help me out....I know only time will truly heal but im lookin for somethings that will help lessen this long time of mourning.......Thanks

[BigRanger]

BTW im just in school right now and haven't been working for a while...Im thinking bout gettin a part time job to take my mind off her...also haven't been in the gym for a while and if i can drag my ass out of bed im gonna try and be in there............I was also thinkin about startin muai thai kickboxing........Anyways LMK what you guys think..........

[treeistheman2]

Originally Posted by BigRanger

BTW im just in school right now and haven't been working for a while...Im thinking bout gettin a part time job to take my mind off her...also haven't been in the gym for a while and if i can drag my ass out of bed im gonna try and be in there............I was also thinkin about startin muai thai kickboxing........Anyways LMK what you guys think..........

you are right to get into other things, that will help. but i am sorry to say only time will heal. so get back to the gym, go to work, as dumb as this sounds, make this misfortune a positive situation. if you get your life in order ten years from now you will laugh about it. i think what you are going through most everybody has gone through something like it. i am 35 yrs old and went through a bad experence like you it sucks. but you know what? it has helped me 100% to better my life. as stupid as it seems i am glad it happened.

[Ronin_]

having self esteem away from the affirmatiom girls give you.

Dont be a sap

Bottom line

[Bob Smith]

Hey bro, youre going to get a lot of advice saying "go f*ck any chick at the bar, do em all!" Thats stupid, IMO. I would spend more time lifting, doing your hobbies and stuff like that. Mainly just keep busy. I went through the same thing and it all does work out ok, just takes some time.

[BigRanger]

Originally Posted by Bob Smith

Hey bro, youre going to get a lot of advice saying "go f*ck any chick at the bar, do em all!" Thats stupid, IMO. I would spend more time lifting, doing your hobbies and stuff like that. Mainly just keep busy. I went through the same thing and it all does work out ok, just takes some time.

Yeah thats what im gonna do.......Also i thought about takin anger management because it was my temper and jealousy that drove her away......

[treeistheman2]

Originally Posted by BigRanger

Yeah thats what im gonna do.......Also i thought about takin anger management because it was my temper and jealousy that drove her away......

bump. stay positive bro.

[soulpower]

what bob said. if you keep the focus on the breakup (consciously or otherwise), you will be down forever. just be good to yourself and lift, do all the things you used to do but with more intensity. you will know when you are "over it" and ready to get back into social life.

my $.02

SP

[GDSGFT]

Once again, I gotta agree with bob. Now's the time to focus more on yourself and do things that you enjoy doing.

Everyone goes through what you're going through AT LEAST once in life, i've been through it many of times, mainly my fault, but regardless, I know exactly how you feel and like other bros have mentioned, only time will heal your wounds.

Just don't hibernate and crawl into a shell, it's probably the worst thing you can do at this point in time.

Get out with your friends, meet new people, you're still young so don't let this hold you down. The world is your oyster, enjoy it to the fullest.

No matter how bad you're feeling inside right now, everyday is bound to get easier for you.

Take care bro

[flex_m]

[quote=GDSGFT]Get out with your friends, meet new people, you're still young so don't let this hold you down. The world is your oyster, enjoy it to the fullest.

I was going to say the same thing and stay away from the booze. It only makes things worse. Again, take your frustration out on the weights.

[seand95]

I read some thing in MD once where a guy asked Chris Cormier this type a questoin and he came back with, "Make a new goal for the gym and stick too it. In no time your mind will be off the problems and your work will have paid off for the positive". hey, it worked for me.... really well actually. i did crawl into a shell so to speak, but the right one albiet. my detatchement from them all seemed like it got me more attention as time went on (only a few months here).

[Phreezer]

Lol@Bob..

My motto... The best way to get over an old girl is to get under a new one.. Trust me.. This helps shorten that whole "Longing" period.

[swage]

I gotta agree with the "wise and all knowing" Bob Smith on this one. Pain and anger are the greatest motivating factors for me personally. I just went through/am currently going through a similar situation. I posted something similar a few months ago. Whenever I feel down or depressed I think about what the new guy she might be dating looks like or what kind of car he drives and how successful he might be. The time will come when I'll eventually cross paths with her when she's out with him. I want to be at my physical and mental best with everything going right in my life. The best revenge is living good. Everyone here has a story where they broke up with a girl only to run into her later. And guess what? She lost weight, changed her wardrobe and looks ten times hotter than when you dated her. It makes you second guess the decision you made to get rid of her. I replay that scenario in my mind everyday. Only this time the tables are reversed. It works, believe me. I've already run into her friends a few times and they commented on how good I looked and it got back to her. She's already called me a few times. I still care about her a lot, but I'll never take her back after she's been with another guy. It does help ease the pain of the situation though. Like I said before....the best revenge is living well my friend.

[Phreezer]

I say fuck her... and what she thinks.. I lift for me.. I do what's right because that's what I feel is right.. and I sure as hell don't spend time everyday thinking about what she's going to think when she see's how good I look, or how succesful I am now. Fuck that.. No offense, but that's not healthy.. You're obsessing daily and doing things simply because of an "EX" girlfriend... Say it with me boys.. It's over.... THe relationship is ended.. it's done.. And I'm not going to spend any more of my time, thinking about or doing things simply because of some bitch who didn't want to be with me. I'm going to move forward.. I'm going to let go of the past..and I'm going to focus on putting my life where I want it because it's best for me.. not because it might make my EX second guess her decission of breaking up with me..

Have some Self Pride gentlemen!

And just one more time... Say it with me.. "The best way to get over an old girl, is to get under a new one"

[Bob Smith]

Phreezer, my friend, I sense a little anger and resentment in your post.

And what a crock that gpa requirement is! What if I score above that in some MBA classes, would that count?