Honesty

[bearze34]

This is something that came up in another thread and has come up quite a bit here. My question is...Can you be honest with your spouse, significant other? Is lying as much a part of a relationship as sex? I saw one person write that if a person says that people should just be honest they are either naive or haven't had a relationship. To me this is ludicrous. My last mairrage disintegrated because of a lack of honesty, which leads to a lack of communication. My current mairrage is great because I decided I would be honest about who I am and what I do, whether it be AAS or going to a strip bar. If I don't feel I can tell my wife about what I am doing, I don't do it. That is just me. How do you guys approach it?

[Neodavid]

You nailed it bro.

This line here "My current marriage is great because I decided I would be honest about who I am and what I do" is an absolute killer.

I say more and deeper honesty, every day, is the way to go.

I have had a HORRIBLE temper, most of my life... hiding it did nothing.

God shows up and tells me this is bullshit, it's because I'm not being honest with myself or others. I'm not really showing my heart, my feelings about things. It gets all bottled up.

BUT, it's easier temporarily... being pc sucks for YOU though, you need to be able to express yourself.

The secret is in not attacking, judging, or blaming. You get to express anger and anything in you, as long as the other person knows THEY are not the target or at fault.

Now I have no temper to speak of, and I'm on 750 test. Not even irratable. Because my wife, just loves to hear me express myself, about anything. And I like to hear her... and we don't judge feelings, we simply accept this is who we both are.

That makes it all work. But finding a woman free enough to start doing that is tough. Having an argument is tough at first too, cause you have to be honest, and that's scary.

But you find out the truth, and it's a whole lot different than you thought, almost like thinking your in Alaska and finding out your in a rain forrest (or so it was for me).

Originally Posted by bearze34

This is something that came up in another thread and has come up quite a bit here. My question is...Can you be honest with your spouse, significant other? Is lying as much a part of a relationship as sex? I saw one person write that if a person says that people should just be honest they are either naive or haven't had a relationship. To me this is ludicrous. My last mairrage disintegrated because of a lack of honesty, which leads to a lack of communication. My current mairrage is great because I decided I would be honest about who I am and what I do, whether it be AAS or going to a strip bar. If I don't feel I can tell my wife about what I am doing, I don't do it. That is just me. How do you guys approach it?

[Massive690]

yep, im not much of a relationship guy but i am alwyas honest with people (unless its the cops). just tell it like it is bros, its a lot less work that way

[ramboj70]

Originally Posted by Massive690

yep, im not much of a relationship guy but i am alwyas honest with people (unless its the cops). just tell it like it is bros, its a lot less work that way

bro be honest, I am very honest with my wife, I tell her everything that goes on with my everyday actions, I tell her about thte girls I meet and the girls that come on to me, honesty is the best policy,

[Meat Train]

I couldn't agree more-- and I couldn't hope for more. Unfortunately, when you are in positions that are open to be misunderstood, it is difficult. The best girl I ever was with threw everything I ever said back in my face-- she could make an intelligent argument out of anything. It kept me aware all of the time-- I miss those days.

[Bob Smith]

Honesty is not the best policy, its the ONLY policy. Jewel can ask me anything and she knows that no matter what, she is going to get an honest answer from me.

[Massive690]

the only time you should lie is if it keeps you out of getting in trouble

[clomidclown]

Sometimes it is easier to lie to avoid a big, long, drawn out fight. I know of many times when I told my girl what she wanted to hear, just so I wouldn't have to hear her bullshit.

[MANWHORE]

Yeah,i agree with Clomid. Sometimes it's better to lie,then to get her upset. I mean little lies,like likeing the way another girl looks. If she catches you looking at another girl and asks if you like that other girl,your best bet is to say "no honey,i was just looking at that ridiculous outfit she has on" I don't agree with cheating and lieing. Well,i don't believe in cheating at all. I can't really comment on lieing about aas,because i was for awhile. I don't want to say it's wrong because i know there are many guys out there in that situation and i know how they feel. I came out and told my wife i wanted to try it again,a few years ago,and there was some crying,but she got over it. She still doesn't agree with it,but i always keep her updated that i will use again,so it's not a big shock when i do. If i let it go too long without bringing it up,i know,when the time comes,it will be a problem again. Besides,she was the one who shot me for my last cycle(1st cycle since i told her)a couple years ago and she will be the one to shoot me for my next,i think. I don't know what she will think about shooting me when the baby is here. She might not like it much,so i may have to shoot myself again. I did like the way she did it,since she is a nurse and it went so smooth. Well,that's my story and i'm stickin to it By the way,GOOD MORNING MESO

[thick]

lies save marriages in many cases. I can not see a single marriage where there hasnt been some little lie told. Whether it is the lady hiding the fact that she bought a pair of shoes or the guy having 12 beers and saying he had 2 or 3. Lies can wreck marriages also. I will go against popular opinion and say lie your ass off if you are doing anything illegal and your wife doesnt know. Dont tell her.It could come back to haunt you.