Last Girlfriend had MPD!

[RobbieH02879]

I was just thinking about this and decided to post...the last girl I dated had multiple Personality disorder,or at least I think that's what it was...she told me many times about her twin 'sister' named 'Stormy',she was supposedly in college and traveling Australia etc. etc.,basically evrything that my ex hasn't done...now my ex's parents died while she was a child,her mother killed her father for insurance money or some shit,then one night her mother was walking train tracks jacked up on Cocaine and drunk as hell and passed out on the tracks and got hit...I know this sounds far fetched but It is true,according to the rest of her family...I use to ask her sisters about this 'stormy' sister and they told me that my ex has always said that,since she was a child.hmm

I met my ex at a club,she was a stripper lol(that should've been my first clue to stay away,but oh well!) She also had a Cocaine addiction,I did my shit back in my party days but jeez,she would make $600 one night and leave the club witha $10 bill...I tried everything I could to get her to straighten up for her child,who I fell in love with,she had the cutest,sweetest little 2 year old girl...I honestly stayed with her for so long just so I could take care of the baby and keep her safe...my ex would stay out all fuckin night,probably fuckin some other guy for all I know,come home and pass out,I would call my ex's house from my carlot in the afternoon and she'd be still passed out while the baby was pretty much on her own!

Finally I had enough,I was still doing my thing,going out etc. while I could get someone to watch the little girl,had my fun but was still miserable etc...I was well known,popular in the club scene,but still felt depressed & empty,I'm sure some of you know what I'm talking about.That shit gets old after a while,all the drugs,and people kissing your ass..lol,I don't rememebr paying for a drink anywhere I went. lmao

January of this year,I went out of state to visit some family(my father) I haven't seen since I was a child(I'm 22 now),got in a car accident ended up hospitalized for months,the Docs completely missed the staph infection & wouldn't of found it had I not demanded my seventh surgery and for another surgeon to perform it,hell I still can't even really walk without a walker...

I'm still in GA as well! No phone calls from anyone lol.Life is great eh?,you find out who your true friends are in a time of crisis,or so I've discovered...hell you guys off of here have been my main support since my accident,some really good guys who wanted to remain anonymous have helped me out tremendously through their emails and support,one guy even sent me $50 to help towards my antibiotics since I still am out of work and the Govenment won't seem to help me in anyway!! Now that's a good hearted person(you know who you are!,and thank you my friend!)

So some of you guys tell me about some of your screwed relationships and hard times that you have endured and conquered,I need some motivation lol,it's gonna be hard forgetting the past and starting over from a negative position.

[graybass]

Robbie Bro this shit sounds awfully familar.
I've dated (as in girlfriend) Three strippers in my time. Same F#*kin shit all three times. The last one started stripping right after we started dating (she did'nt do drugs at the time) In one year she was a total coke whore!
What is it with strippers and blow?
My biggest nightmare came right after that.
I met a girl who was the greatest. We dated for about 1 1/2 years, after which we got married. She loved the gym. Started competing in fitness and BB. Man, with my knowledge as a Trainer and nutritionist, she became the hottest woman in the room wherever we went. We bought a house together, with a pool. I always wanted a house with a pool since I grew up with one.

There was nothing like her swimming aroud topless with the best boobs on the planet.
On top of this, she was a successful business woman making 100k a yr.
We did everything together. This might sound stuoid to some people but, we were on a softball team together, we were in a bowling league, we lifted together, we went tanning together. We were making money so, we used to go to Cancun like every two or three months. Down there she'd wear one of those micro thongs, WOW.

So one day I realized this is truly my soul mate. I got down on my knees and thanked God for our life together! I thought we had it all. A great love life, a wonderful house, and the best sex life that a test monster like myself could even imagine!

It seemed like it was the next day, but she suddenly tells me she wants a divorce! I'm like, is this a joke?
So I lose my fucking mind like a big baby. I begged her to reconsider. I told her I'd do anything to save our life together.
Go to therapy, sleep in a tent in the back yard, crawl thru broken glass for a mile, whatever it took. I'd change (although I did'nt know what I did wrong)

So I groveled like a pussy.
She says OK, you want a second chance do what I ask. We went to a therapist for six months. I asked her (female right!) help me, tell me what to do. she says I can't do that, we have to work it out together.
I ask her again. I said in all your years in therapy surely you've seen similar problems. Use all your knowledge and tell me what to do.
She say OK, I'm not supposed to do this but here goes.

Do whatever she asks!
So I figure I got the secret answer. I did everything.
She kept saying things like "If you want a second chance go stay with friends for now, If you want a second chance, sign over the house to me, give me anything I want, the bank accounts (I did not care about money) The new car, all our investments, We owned a small apartment we rented out for income, gave her that.

Make a very long story a little shorter, I gave everything I owned.
When I had nothing left, she says Ok I changed my mind, There will be no second chance! Just like that.
So that therapist was really worth the $125. an hour I was paying her!!!

Anyway that was years ago, I was so down I did not think I could go on.
My lifting partner says dude, you got to change you attutude.
You should spend this time working on your self. He starts giving me all these books on self help. A big one being "The Power of positive thinking"
I started reading all these books on Physcology, and books on how to turn your life around in business, relationships etc.

I started to believe that the power of the mind could do anything, if you just take it one step at a time.
If you take one small step towards your goal (no matter whatever it is) everyday, even the smallest thing, that's 365 steps toward your goal a year.
Think of all you can do!

Anyway, I feel like what happened to me was a test! I had to become a bigger better person or die.
Today I am a much happier, healthier, more successful person than I was.
I have a wonderful GF that I live with, who treats me like a king!
I own my own Personal training business that's almost too successful.

Remember "What does not kill you, makes you stronger"

Robbie, I hope my little story helped you in some way.
Hang the hell in there. Think of all the great things YOU WILL accomplish with your life, and soon!!!

Your friend, graybass

[RobbieH02879]

Wow,Gray,sorry you had to go through that shit,man.Sounds as if we have had the same type of women probs lol,My ex that I spoke of basically did me the same way bro,first girl that could literally bring me to my knees because I believed her to be 'the one'.I was blind to most of the stuff she was pulling at first,or just didn't wanna believe it...had friends coem up and tell me all this stuff about her etc,and I refused to believe it until I seen it for myself(I'm pretty stubborn )

I appreciate all the advice you have given me man,it has really helped ease my mind more than you know,just knowing someones 'been there' and has rosen up from the 'ashes' and truly succeeded and found happiness helps alot.

I have also been trying to improve myself during this downtime,reading,studying business theory,maybe I'll get the opportunity to open another carlot somehow in the future...last three months I have been working out my upperbody(still can't really walk) as hard as I can and keeping my diet very strict,I like to think I'm gonna come out of this whole mess bigger and better than ever.

Again thanks for all your advice,it has really helped gray.

[freak]

Damn good job Gray!!
Good luck Robbie, and keep on listening to Gray.

[ramboj70]

Originally Posted by graybass

Robbie Bro this shit sounds awfully familar.
I've dated (as in girlfriend) Three strippers in my time. Same F#*kin shit all three times. The last one started stripping right after we started dating (she did'nt do drugs at the time) In one year she was a total coke whore!
What is it with strippers and blow?
My biggest nightmare came right after that.
I met a girl who was the greatest. We dated for about 1 1/2 years, after which we got married. She loved the gym. Started competing in fitness and BB. Man, with my knowledge as a Trainer and nutritionist, she became the hottest woman in the room wherever we went. We bought a house together, with a pool. I always wanted a house with a pool since I grew up with one.

There was nothing like her swimming aroud topless with the best boobs on the planet.
On top of this, she was a successful business woman making 100k a yr.
We did everything together. This might sound stuoid to some people but, we were on a softball team together, we were in a bowling league, we lifted together, we went tanning together. We were making money so, we used to go to Cancun like every two or three months. Down there she'd wear one of those micro thongs, WOW.

So one day I realized this is truly my soul mate. I got down on my knees and thanked God for our life together! I thought we had it all. A great love life, a wonderful house, and the best sex life that a test monster like myself could even imagine!

It seemed like it was the next day, but she suddenly tells me she wants a divorce! I'm like, is this a joke?
So I lose my fucking mind like a big baby. I begged her to reconsider. I told her I'd do anything to save our life together.
Go to therapy, sleep in a tent in the back yard, crawl thru broken glass for a mile, whatever it took. I'd change (although I did'nt know what I did wrong)

So I groveled like a pussy.
She says OK, you want a second chance do what I ask. We went to a therapist for six months. I asked her (female right!) help me, tell me what to do. she says I can't do that, we have to work it out together.
I ask her again. I said in all your years in therapy surely you've seen similar problems. Use all your knowledge and tell me what to do.
She say OK, I'm not supposed to do this but here goes.

Do whatever she asks!
So I figure I got the secret answer. I did everything.
She kept saying things like "If you want a second chance go stay with friends for now, If you want a second chance, sign over the house to me, give me anything I want, the bank accounts (I did not care about money) The new car, all our investments, We owned a small apartment we rented out for income, gave her that.

Make a very long story a little shorter, I gave everything I owned.
When I had nothing left, she says Ok I changed my mind, There will be no second chance! Just like that.
So that therapist was really worth the $125. an hour I was paying her!!!

Anyway that was years ago, I was so down I did not think I could go on.
My lifting partner says dude, you got to change you attutude.
You should spend this time working on your self. He starts giving me all these books on self help. A big one being "The Power of positive thinking"
I started reading all these books on Physcology, and books on how to turn your life around in business, relationships etc.

I started to believe that the power of the mind could do anything, if you just take it one step at a time.
If you take one small step towards your goal (no matter whatever it is) everyday, even the smallest thing, that's 365 steps toward your goal a year.
Think of all you can do!

Anyway, I feel like what happened to me was a test! I had to become a bigger better person or die.
Today I am a much happier, healthier, more successful person than I was.
I have a wonderful GF that I live with, who treats me like a king!
I own my own Personal training business that's almost too successful.

Remember "What does not kill you, makes you stronger"

Robbie, I hope my little story helped you in some way.
Hang the hell in there. Think of all the great things YOU WILL accomplish with your life, and soon!!!

Your friend, graybass

you know we have same shit go on in our life bro, I was 21 when I got married 1st time, she took everything, and on top of it, i got a domestic violence charge on me, and she was the one beating me, LOL I was going down the drain, so I said fuck it and joined the marine corps, here I am today, still crazy but very happy, house wife kids, my own business. and I am only 34

[RobbieH02879]

Originally Posted by freak

Damn good job Gray!!
Good luck Robbie, and keep on listening to Gray.

Thanks bro.I apprecaite it...GrayBass has been very helpful,notice in my sig I have a quote he gave me.

Thanks guys,I really appreciate the words.