General Discussion: This is a discussion on Lost in Hell within the Discussion forums, part of the extensive steroid information at MESO-Rx; Man bro's, I cant believe how ones life can take a turn for the worst in such a sort time. ...
Man bro's, I cant believe how ones life can take a turn for the worst in such a sort time. I'm 25 married with one child, im a full time student and i love weight liftiing. Everything was great until the married part creep in. It's like one day i was a happy married man and now I feel like satan has trapped me in the bottemless pit, and she has no plans on letting me out. I can't blame every single problem on my wife but everything seems to start with her. Almost every night she picks a fight, I try not to walk into it but she pisses me off so freaking much. I try and explain to her that she's really pushing me away but I don't think she really understands how unhappy I am. It's like this relationship is putting me into some type of depression. Im losing joy in all the things I once enjoyed doing. I no longer save money like I use to, it's becoming harder and harder for me to go to the gym and my school work is taking a hit. Hell I dont even look forward to coming home anymore. We have spoke about breaking the marriage many times before but I would feel like im running out on my child. I understand that she shouldnt have to see her mother and father yell and disrespect each other because thats not being good role models. It's like I dont want to see the writing on the wall. I really believe it's over but my wife seems to be able to live life this way and just chalk it up as maybe things will get better in the long run. But im thinking why the hell should I waste any more years of my life just for us to break up. I've lost the better part of my 20's on this bullshit and I dont plan on losing more but 5 years of being married and a wonderfull baby girl makes it hard to leave. Any info from yoou great bro's on meso would be nice.
Man bro's, I cant believe how ones life can take a turn for the worst in such a sort time. I'm 25 married with one child, im a full time student and i love weight liftiing. Everything was great until the married part creep in. It's like one day i was a happy married man and now I feel like satan has trapped me in the bottemless pit, and she has no plans on letting me out. I can't blame every single problem on my wife but everything seems to start with her. Almost every night she picks a fight, I try not to walk into it but she pisses me off so freaking much. I try and explain to her that she's really pushing me away but I don't think she really understands how unhappy I am. It's like this relationship is putting me into some type of depression. Im losing joy in all the things I once enjoyed doing. I no longer save money like I use to, it's becoming harder and harder for me to go to the gym and my school work is taking a hit. Hell I dont even look forward to coming home anymore. We have spoke about breaking the marriage many times before but I would feel like im running out on my child. I understand that she shouldnt have to see her mother and father yell and disrespect each other because thats not being good role models. It's like I dont want to see the writing on the wall. I really believe it's over but my wife seems to be able to live life this way and just chalk it up as maybe things will get better in the long run. But im thinking why the hell should I waste any more years of my life just for us to break up. I've lost the better part of my 20's on this bullshit and I dont plan on losing more but 5 years of being married and a wonderfull baby girl makes it hard to leave. Any info from yoou great bro's on meso would be nice.
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shit bro thats a tough one. id say your best bet would be to sit down with your wife and make her understand that you are extermely unhappy and depressed and are not willing to live like that anymore so there needs to be some changes. its a really nobel thing to want to stick it out just for the sake of your child bro, i commend you on that. hopefully everything will be ok and you and the wife can work it out and quit fighting. let us know how it goes
How long have you been married? How old is your daughter? How long has your wife been difficult to live with? Has your wife told you why she is unhappy?Data
How long have you been married? How old is your daughter? How long has your wife been difficult to live with? Has your wife told you why she is unhappy?Data
I ve been married for 5 years now and my daughter is 21mons. Things became difficult once I started to enjoy things with out her. Like she tells me that I must be sick because I spend so much time in the gym. I do a 3 on 1 off and I only spend one hour in the gym. And she's always unhappy, I cant remember a time when somethiing wasnt wrong with her.
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I ve been married for 5 years now and my daughter is 21mons. Things became difficult once I started to enjoy things with out her. Like she tells me that I must be sick because I spend so much time in the gym. I do a 3 on 1 off and I only spend one hour in the gym. And she's always unhappy, I cant remember a time when somethiing wasnt wrong with her.
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I would show her this post.... (or something very close written down) explain to her how unhappy you are, and that if you guys don't make some agreements about what you both want.. Then you are going to leave. Explain what you enjoy in life, and express how the things that she is doing is making you feel so down.
Ask her if there is something in her life that she would like to persue but doesn't because of You... Make an agreement..
Atleast give it a try... you made a vow before God, your family and your church you also have to think more about your daughter than yourself in this thing. (I'm not saying eat a turd sandwhich..but you need to go that extra mile no matter what, because you love your daughter more than yourself) You shouldn't give up yet.. Not untill you exhaust every possible avenue for making this thing work... Seriously, write a letter, put everything in it that you feel..and how serious this is..but try to use the words... "I feel like this when you say _ _ _ _ .. and when you say this it makes me feel _ _ _ _ " Instead of just you do this wrong..you do that wrong...See what I'm saying? Get your point across, but do so like your talking to someone that you don't want to hurt (even if part of you does want to hurt her)
Good advice Phreezer! I think communication (real communication) is the key in any successful relationship. You need to sit her down and tell her what's up. Ever think about a marriage counselor? Could this be some sort of "post partum depression? I've heard having birth affects women in different ways. Good luck and let us know how everything turns out.
I am your age and married and work and go to school and lift, but no kid(so I can relate some)...you said she started changing when you enjoyed stuff without her? Maybe she is insecure/jealous and instead of being open about it she is acting out in this way...I love my wife more than anything, but women can be f'ing crazy...We've had times when shit started going bad and then when we got to the source of what was bothering my wife it was something really stupid...they certainly don't express themselves like we do, when was the last time that you guys did something special together? we just got past a pretty big hurdle about 2 mos ago because she thought I was spending too much time with schoolwork and lifting and when we were together I wasn't making her feel special...marriages always require input of energy and work, I would definitely do everything phreezer said and just try to remember that at one time you really were in love and just remember why...have you considered counseling? if you do go, go to a church based counselor...like phreez said you made a vow before God...maybe tell your wife you both need to put your daughter first...good luck
hey if you write her that note, maybe read it to her in person- writing it out will keep your thoughts straight and doing it verbally can better express your sincerity, just a thought
i think you should copy the web addy to this thread and email it to her. let her watch as people comment....hell, let her sign up and post a comment of her own. she needs to see that we're not just taking your side, that we're actually trying to give an unbiased opinion here like real friends would.
on the flipside of unbiased opinions...call me chauvanistic, but i think most women are way too needy. in a relationship, you're SUPPOSED to enjoy doing things separately....you're SUPPOSED to have your separate lives, and then your joint life should be separate from your individual lives. the couples that stay married and happy are the ones that compliment each other, not coordinate with each other. you shouldnt base your happiness on the actions of another person, even if it is your own spouse. i think alot of the reason people are unhappy when theyre married is because they let themselves lose their individuality...and this does not have to happen.
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