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Bros I know it sounds like I'm Pwipped ok so I am. I know what the people who know and hang with me will say, so I figured I'd ask you guys cause I can get unbiased advise.
I met this great girl about 2 months ago and we click! I go for hot bimbo types the kind of short and sweet relationships, she's nothing like my "ideal" bimbo girl. She's smart,young, hot, no baggage, good carreer, athlete, the list goes on and on. In six weeks I am supposed to move to NYC to finish my degree (law) and start alittle biz venture. I can't think of being without her. She feels the same way to boot. If I stay I already know I will move in with her when our leases are up in August. If I go to NYC I lose her, cause I can't do 2 years long distance. She has a minimum of 2 years in Cali to jumpstart a great carreer so moving there is not an option. Also I can finish my degree here.
So my question is it to soon to be in love with this girl or throw away my plans? If I had to move tomorrow I would stay. I realized the only reason for moving to NYC was to be a swinging dick for a couple of years. Now all I can do is think about her and that I will make a huge mistake if I leave.
One last point, she has a history of totally oposite behavior than this, so she's not some crazy clingy chick. I know cause a good freind of ours set us up. SHe says she can't believe either of us talking all this mushy shit.
Help me out or flame me,
your bro
shred
Last edited by shredalean; 06-12-2004 at 06:55 AM.
First I need to ask how old you are, I would guess in the mid to late twenties if you are about to finish up a law degree. If that's the case I would say follow your heart bro, see where the next 6 weeks go and if your feelings get stronger, stay in Cali. The last thing you want to do is move away because you think it is too soon, and wonder what could have been for the rest of your life. It's a shitty feeling knowing you might have let "the one" go, and you would never forgive yourself.
On the other hand if going to NY means a possible advancement in your career path, that might not be the case in cali (i.e better school, higher paying job oppurtunities, etc), then I would say you're in a real shitty situation. With that said if all is the same in NY and Cali career wise, then I would definately stay and see how things pan out. Either way, you need to sit down and have a long talk with your girl, and make sure she feels the same as you bro.
wisdom
Rushing into things is usually a fairly bad idea, but love has no time frame for establishment. I loved my girl before we ever dated. We were inseperable friends for over a year before we ever dated and I was absolutely in love with her.
I will say one thing... In high school, I dated a girl that I thought I would always bee with (wtf did I know, I was 16!) and I refrained from going away to play college football to go to our local, shitty university. Then we broke up after my 1st year of college. I will, however, say that things worked out better for me this way than I ever could have imagined. Follow your heart. Find a good school where you are and do it there, unless NYC is a dream of yours. Don't be blinded and forget about your dreams.
I hope everything works out. Having lost my kid sister a few years ago, I also believe we need to live each day to the fullest. My girl and I don't live together yet (but we're moving together in 2 months) and I won't let a day pass without seeing her and telling her I love her. She's the most amazing thing that's every happened to me.
Good luck bro, things will work out. Weigh the input from your heart and mind, then decide which is more important.
First I need to ask how old you are, I would guess in the mid to late twenties if you are about to finish up a law degree. If that's the case I would say follow your heart bro, see where the next 6 weeks go and if your feelings get stronger, stay in Cali. The last thing you want to do is move away because you think it is too soon, and wonder what could have been for the rest of your life. It's a shitty feeling knowing you might have let "the one" go, and you would never forgive yourself.
On the other hand if going to NY means a possible advancement in your career path, that might not be the case in cali (i.e better school, higher paying job oppurtunities, etc), then I would say you're in a real shitty situation. With that said if all is the same in NY and Cali career wise, then I would definately stay and see how things pan out. Either way, you need to sit down and have a long talk with your girl, and make sure she feels the same as you bro.
wisdom
30 yrs old divorced, well versed in relationships.
I was 30, divorced when I met my present wife. She was 22, never been married, no children. We moved in together after 2 weeks. She was the right one. We've been married 14 and a half years. We made the right decision.
Bro, after just splitting with my girl of 6 yrs, including living together for a little over 3 of those years...I would have to say go to NYC. Get a great job, get your education, get everything you have ever dreamed/prayed for/hoped/wanted out of your career...
As I have found, women will come and go. I do not believe there is one special woman for youout there. There are millions of great women out there, dont pass up an opportunity of a lifetime to get an education and start a career in the city that never sleeps..
I would suggest doin your plans, whatever they may be. If you just met this chick and have only been dating for two months, then I think its a bad idea to live together. I think living together before marriage is a bad idea anyway (and the research supports this), but if one was to do it, then only after dating for a long time. What the hell does anyone know about someone else in 2 months? Virtually nothing. Dont do it, bro.
I would suggest doin your plans, whatever they may be. If you just met this chick and have only been dating for two months, then I think its a bad idea to live together. I think living together before marriage is a bad idea anyway (and the research supports this), but if one was to do it, then only after dating for a long time. What the hell does anyone know about someone else in 2 months? Virtually nothing. Dont do it, bro.
YOu got a good point my man, but I still think moving may be a mistake. I don't want to sound cocky, but I have run through women in my life. I always find flaws and think I can do better, shit this one could shit herself and I would help her clean it up. We'll see about moving in together (her idea, but I could consider it) the more I think about it moving away the less appealing it sounds, because I know I will regret it in the end. So we'll see school can be finished anywhere.
Thanks bro's for your thoughts.
Rambo bro she's on the pill, got any ideas as to how to get her pregnant around those pesky little buggers? I like the idea!
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