Tough Decision

[sweettart29]

Okay guy I need some opinions here.

Here's the situation, I have some very good friends who live in florida. They have been together since they were sixteen and been married for four years now. They found out three years ago that they couldn't have children unless they adopted, tried invetro(u know what i mean) or tried a few other things. One of those other things was to have someone else have a baby for them. They looked into the adoption and they realized that was going to cost them too much money, and it was like a shot in the dark if they got a baby or a 3 year old they really wouldn't have a choice, not that it matters but anyways. They r now looking into the invetro but they r not sure that my friend will b able to carry a baby becuz her uterus is so scared, they removed half of it in laser surgery a year ago. Back in Feb they emailed me and told me what was going on. They would b the best parents in the world in my opinion. In the email they asked me if the invetro didn't work if I would b willing to have a baby for them. I am not sure I can for the reason that I had a tubal done four years ago and I don't know if reversing it or trying to at this point would even work. What I want to know is how would you guys feel if you gf/wife/significant other had this decision to make. Would you support her or tell her she was crazy. Cuz there r ALOT of people right now telling me I am very crazy for even considering it.

[Bob Smith]

paragraphs....remember the paragraphs!

[sweettart29]

To early for paragraphs or late or whatever

[Ian Smith]

[quote=sweettart29]Okay guy I need some opinions here.

Thats a tough situation.... Personally,I Would have a difficult time with it if I had a girlfriend who decided to do that... Im not saying I wouldnt stay with her,, but it would be difficult..... I think you should also consider how difficult it will be to let go of a child you carried for 9 months as well..... Probably not much help.... Good Luck

[Bob Smith]

Too long to read.

[sweettart29]

Okaby BS here is the short version for your reading pleasure lol

I want to know how you would feel or what your opinion would b if someone asked your gf/wife/sigificant other if she would have a baby for them. Now this is only after they have tried every other option and failed. Would u support her decision, or would u tell her she was crazy for doing it?

[ramboj70]

Originally Posted by sweettart29

Okaby BS here is the short version for your reading pleasure lol

I want to know how you would feel or what your opinion would b if someone asked your gf/wife/sigificant other if she would have a baby for them. Now this is only after they have tried every other option and failed. Would u support her decision, or would u tell her she was crazy for doing it?

if they need help ask me I will be more then happy to assist his wife or girfriend, LOL

[sweettart29]

Originally Posted by ramboj70

if they need help ask me I will be more then happy to assist his wife or girfriend, LOL

Actually from what the doctors r telling them his lil guys r good it is her. And no I would not b doing the horizontal bed boogie with him. NO WAY!!

[dolfe1]

Originally Posted by ramboj70

if they need help ask me I will be more then happy to assist his wife or girfriend, LOL

Rambo we can always count on you buddy.

[Chip Bronson]

sweet they should be happy that mother nature, or god if you like, has spared them. now they have every excuse in the world not have rugrats with out any compunction. my wife and i have had to routinely defend our decision, not to have any kids, to family and friends for years, to their disbelief. if we were incapable it would've been so much easier. we'd just say, 'it's god's will' and that would be it; case closed. tell your friends not to look a gift-horse in the mouth, eh?

oh yeah, i couldn't read your whole post either. use paragraphs next time damn it!!!

[thick]

that is a very tough situation and i dont know what i would do. I dont think i would be supportive of my wife or gf having someone elses kid. Depends on who the people are though. If it was my best friend than I would probably end up allowing it. It is just too hard to say. Hopefully they find a way to get it worked out so you dont have to decide. How long you been friends with them? that is a huge sacrifice on your part and will b tough on your boyfriend. You have already had kids so u know what it will be like. what does your bf and family have to say about it

Originally Posted by sweettart29

Okay guy I need some opinions here.

Here's the situation, I have some very good friends who live in florida. They have been together since they were sixteen and been married for four years now. They found out three years ago that they couldn't have children unless they adopted, tried invetro(u know what i mean) or tried a few other things. One of those other things was to have someone else have a baby for them. They looked into the adoption and they realized that was going to cost them too much money, and it was like a shot in the dark if they got a baby or a 3 year old they really wouldn't have a choice, not that it matters but anyways. They r now looking into the invetro but they r not sure that my friend will b able to carry a baby becuz her uterus is so scared, they removed half of it in laser surgery a year ago. Back in Feb they emailed me and told me what was going on. They would b the best parents in the world in my opinion. In the email they asked me if the invetro didn't work if I would b willing to have a baby for them. I am not sure I can for the reason that I had a tubal done four years ago and I don't know if reversing it or trying to at this point would even work. What I want to know is how would you guys feel if you gf/wife/significant other had this decision to make. Would you support her or tell her she was crazy. Cuz there r ALOT of people right now telling me I am very crazy for even considering it.

[Chip Bronson]

just say NO. too many little fuckers in this world as it is....

[sweettart29]

Originally Posted by thick

that is a very tough situation and i dont know what i would do. I dont think i would be supportive of my wife or gf having someone elses kid. Depends on who the people are though. If it was my best friend than I would probably end up allowing it. It is just too hard to say. Hopefully they find a way to get it worked out so you dont have to decide. How long you been friends with them? that is a huge sacrifice on your part and will b tough on your boyfriend. You have already had kids so u know what it will be like. what does your bf and family have to say about it

My mom doesn't think I should do it. For the simple reason that three out of the four pregnancies were high risk not only for the lil people growing in me but also for myself. My bf doesn't know my friends I met them b 4 i met him and they moved to florida b 4 i met him. I've known them for six years now. I am hoping that they can do it on their own cuz i really don't want to have to make that decision. And I don't want to tell them that I will have the tubal reversed and then find out that I can't get pregnant for some unknown reason.

[Bob Smith]

Originally Posted by thick

that is a very tough situation and i dont know what i would do. I dont think i would be supportive of my wife or gf having someone elses kid. Depends on who the people are though. If it was my best friend than I would probably end up allowing it. It is just too hard to say. Hopefully they find a way to get it worked out so you dont have to decide. How long you been friends with them? that is a huge sacrifice on your part and will b tough on your boyfriend. You have already had kids so u know what it will be like. what does your bf and family have to say about it

Thick, didnt you see the thread the other day about people quoting a huge ass post?

Sweet, I would probably be against my gf/future wife having someone elses baby. Maybe its a little selfish, who knows. But I think that there are enough unwanted babies in America that adoption should be the first choice. Give some lil kid a loving home that would otherwise go live in foster care or group homes.

[thick]

yeah, i wasnt sure what you were talking about [quote=Bob Smith]Thick, didnt you see the thread the other day about people quoting a huge ass post?