I was here back in the day when we had a classifieds. Trust me, you were not any safer.
Best advise i can give ya is to join a board with reputable members, stick around for a year or 2 gaining wisdom and getting to know everybody and someone may decide to point you in the right direction.
Rule number 1 as dude in the first response says, if you get a pm from ANYONE on here anytime soon offering to sell you
var, dont take the bait.
Its even worse since your a girl. If they send you something else like
winny instead of
var....congrats, by the time you figure it out you will look like a man for the rest of your life. Not worth it.